I can hear the foot steps of the new year nearing my door and its time that it will knock soon. News papers are doing a round up of the events. fb is throwing back the memories gathered on time line. The gratitude posts this month talk about sailing through the thick and thin of the year that is coming to an end. For me its always been another day, rather a new day just like rest of the 364 days of the year. But going through deluge of 'year gone by', round up posts, I thought it to be a good opportunity to look back and see what have I learnt from it?
What did I see?
I saw that I have witnessed evolution, which happened gradually, one day at a time to be precise. I have evolved as a person, as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter in law, as a daughter, as a sister, as a friend, as a disciple of Almighty and as a blogger. The evolution was happening effortlessly on some fronts and on some I had worked patiently, diligently and at times with lots of hard work. All these developments pointed to same seed of thought, feeling.
The storm of thought tossed one-word way up into my mind and I could read it clearly. “Realisation”, was mainstream of my learning for the year 2017!
It was the realisation that helped me appreciate my mother in law, who passed away fighting bravely with her chronic kidney disease. She was a woman of great confidence. She took life head on after loosing her husband early into marriage. But the flip side of the coin of “confidence” had “stubbornness” written all over it. It was in her death, we realised that no matter how confident one can be and live without anyone’s support, you need at least four people to carry you on their shoulders for your final journey. It was this realisation that affirmed my belief in accepting the people around me as they are and not as I want, to sustain the relationships. I learnt that to sustain relationships, acceptance is the key.
All the while when my better half was handling the front of my ailing mother in law, I was entrusted to look after my brood single handed. This responsibility helped me unearth immense potential I had hidden in me to withstand every situation. Whether it was hospitalisation of my son owing to high fever or taking my daughter to orthopaedic surgeon for fracture, I did it with a brave stance. I realised that I am much more stronger than I feel I am! I learnt to believe in my abilities.
Early into the year, I realised that I was making my children dependent on me, purely out of love and protective instincts of a mother. This realisation led me take steps to push them on their self-sufficiency path. I realised my giant kid was no more kid and he is blooming up to be a fine human being. He took the charge of himself very well when I relinquished the controls. Now I wonder why was I wasting my energies in planning his days and studies all these days? At the same time, I was depriving him of the joys of small victories of managing self, confidently. I learnt that it is 'Better late than never!'
Realisation helped me understand my heart’s calling. Innumerable thoughts were dying to pop out of my head, my heart. I realised that I enjoy penning those thoughts. My MocktailMommies buddies helped me realise that the stage was set to start my own blog and I must listen to my heart. I was very much doubtful of sustaining myself as an independent blogger. But I chose to take a dip. And I did! Years to come will show whether I will succeed or otherwise. Am I bothered about it? Absolutely not! For I have learnt that I write for my pleasure. As long as writing fetches me pleasure, I will not stop for sure.
We, me and my better half, may not have reiterated our love for each other as often as we did in earlier days. The thoughtful actions every now and then on our parts reinforced our age-old bond! We appreciated each other more, for our efforts to make the family a cohesive, complete and happy unit. It was realisation that we complement each other well, helped us fall in love with each other all over again. We make a good team was the best learning out of various realisations of the year!
As I walk through these realisations, I learnt that this knowledge was there, very much existing somewhere deep within; but only covered and layered by the dust of ignorance; thus camouflaged. 365 days of the year helped me, one day at a time, to uncover it!
All this one day at a time…
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Beautifully penned Anagha! Hope 2018 brings out the best in you !ReplyDelete
Thank you Meha! Wish you a great year ahead too!Delete
Nice round up of the year gone by. I wish you a wonderful 2018ReplyDelete
Thank you Balaka for visiting and for the wishes. Wish you the same too!Delete
One day at a time is the best way to go, Anagha. This is what I too realised this year. We know not what the future holds, so why not do the best with what we have today?ReplyDelete
You have indeed done very well, as a wife, mother, as a blogger..way to go!
May you succeed in every area of life, Anagha! May you find happiness in every thing you do!
Stay blessed, dear girl! WIsh you a beautiful new year!
Agree you Shilpa about doing our best now and today. Thank you so much for encouraging me and appreciating my efforts.Delete
I wish you a happy new year. May it be fabulous for you and your family.
You really did accomplish a lot, didn’t you. Relinquishing control is one of the hardest things a parent can do and your son is gaining maturity. Happy New Year and I hope you have a wonderful 2018.ReplyDelete
Relinquishing control was really hard to come by. But working on it step by step, helped both of us, me and my son.Delete
Thank you Alans for visiting and reassuring my faith in efforts to do good things.
Wish you and your family a very happy new year.
One day at a time is an excellent philosophy. I am sorry for the loss of your mother in law, given that I think that my mother in law's days may not be long (but I don't want to count her out, either). When a marriage experiences hard times (I've been married nearly 45 years) stress can either make or break it. I'm happy to see that your love only deepened. These are all wonderful accomplishments!ReplyDelete
Illness in the family does stress out individual members and strains the relationship. But thankfully, our bond strengthened and stood the test of time.Delete
Thank you visiting and appreciating my efforts.
Nice to see all the lessons learnt even in the tough times. Hope 2018 is lovely for you!ReplyDelete
Thanks Sanch for visiting and for the wishes too!Delete
thoughtful interesting sharingReplyDelete
Thank you Pushpendraji for visiting and appreciating.Delete
How nice to see your positive approach to life and it’s challenges. Wishing you all the best for 2018ReplyDelete
Its the time and experiences that taught me to be positive towards life, Sunita.Delete
Thank you for visiting appreciating and for the wishes.
people filled with negativity should read your thoughts, maybe they can get right way for their future.ReplyDelete